a few things have me thinking about gender lately.
1. I am a switch and love a good pegging. i have had 3 GFs who were game. at best, they were turned on by the novelty of 'fucking a man in the ass." one couldnt get past the idea that i just might be gay. (i REALLY like a good pegging)
The point of all of this is that i realized that i have never really associated penetration with gender. when i was little i REALLY wanted to know what it felt like to be a woman; enough so that i remember getting in trouble for pretending. i remember when i discovered' sex i was fascinated by the thought of penetrating and of being penetrated. i never was interested in just one piece of it, so here i am now.
2.i have been looking around for a transgender partner and kept on seeing that they wanted to be treated "like a real woman." after reading 1 i am sure you can see how that might be a frustrating sentiment. there is already a thread about whether or not trans peope maintain binaries, so i will not belabor that point.
3. i am a switch. but i am, apperently, a really good top. but, again, when i start talking about giving control in sex, gender roles become an issue and i realize that i just don't care.
all of this lead me to try to find a label for myself to simplify explanation. i think genderqueer fits...but then the kicker is that i just don't "look" genderqueer...which seems to complicate issues further.
*sigh*
any thoughts?
1. I am a switch and love a good pegging. i have had 3 GFs who were game. at best, they were turned on by the novelty of 'fucking a man in the ass." one couldnt get past the idea that i just might be gay. (i REALLY like a good pegging)
The point of all of this is that i realized that i have never really associated penetration with gender. when i was little i REALLY wanted to know what it felt like to be a woman; enough so that i remember getting in trouble for pretending. i remember when i discovered' sex i was fascinated by the thought of penetrating and of being penetrated. i never was interested in just one piece of it, so here i am now.
2.i have been looking around for a transgender partner and kept on seeing that they wanted to be treated "like a real woman." after reading 1 i am sure you can see how that might be a frustrating sentiment. there is already a thread about whether or not trans peope maintain binaries, so i will not belabor that point.
3. i am a switch. but i am, apperently, a really good top. but, again, when i start talking about giving control in sex, gender roles become an issue and i realize that i just don't care.
all of this lead me to try to find a label for myself to simplify explanation. i think genderqueer fits...but then the kicker is that i just don't "look" genderqueer...which seems to complicate issues further.
*sigh*
any thoughts?
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Re: Socially male, Romantically genderqueer?
Sun, October 28, 2007 - 1:04 PMNot too far off from me, actually. I present as a soft-butch bio-female, but tend to relate romantically and sexually from a male role. I was lucky enough to hook up with my polar opposite, a bio-boy with extremely female energy, but it's taken me a few decades to get here. -
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Re: Socially male, Romantically genderqueer?
Sun, October 28, 2007 - 2:39 PMdecades? that bodes well.
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Re: Socially male, Romantically genderqueer?
Mon, October 29, 2007 - 10:06 AMI run into that since i look like the cyclist version of Vinn Diesel on the outside with the voice of Don LaFontaine.
I am happy with my physical, but i get lumped in with the rest of 'the guys.
That doesnt match with my gender identity, which is all over the place, and my orientation, which is pretty pansexual.
Personally, i decided not to make other's genders or biological sex parts factors into my interest in them. I treat others as
i wish to be treated.
In the words of Captain Jack Harkness, ' You still have sexual orientation in the 21st century....? How quiant.'
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Re: Socially male, Romantically genderqueer?
Thu, November 1, 2007 - 11:27 AMgood fun.
thought i'd share a recent reaction
"i dont mean to sound like a dick(pun intended), but you said you were entirely straight?"
i didnt, of course. but that besides the point.
